Umm SalamahUmm Salamah! What an eventful life she had! Her real name was Hind. She was
the daughter of one of the notables in the Makhzum clan nicknamed "Zad ar-Rakib"
because he was well known for his generosity partlcularly to travellers. Umm
Salamah's husband was Abdullah ibn Abdulasad and they both were among the first
persons to accept Islam. Only Abu Bakr and a few others, who could be counted on
the fingers of one hand, became Muslims before them. As soon as the news of
their becoming Muslims spread, the Quraysh reacted with frenzied anger. They
began hounding and persecuting Umm Salamah and her husband. But the couple did
not waver or despair and remained steadfast in their new faith. The persecution
became more and more intense. Life in Makkah became unbearable for many of the
new Muslims. The Prophet, peace be upon him, then gave permission for them to
emigrate to Abyssinia. Umm Salamah and her husband were in the forefront of
these muhajirun, seekers of refuge in a strange land. For Umm Salamah it meant
abandoning her spacious home and giving up the traditional ties of lineage and
honour for something newÑhope in the pleasure and reward of Allah.
Despite the protection Umm Salamah and her companions received from the
Abyssinian ruler, the desire to return to Makkah, to be near the Prophet and the
source of relevation and guidance persisted. News eventually reached the
muhajErun that the number of Muslims in Makkah had increased. Among them were
Hamzah ibn Abdulmuttalib and Umar ibn al-Khattab. Their faith had greatly
strengthened the community and the Quraysh they heard, had eased the persecution
somewhat. Thus a group of the muhajErun, urged on by a deep longing in their
hearts, decided to return to Makkah. The easing of the persecution was but brief
as the returnees soon found out. The dramatic increase in the number of Muslims
following the acceptance of Islam by Hamzah and Umar only infuriated the Quraysh
even more. They intensified their persecution and torture to a pitch and
intensity not known before. So the Prophet gave permission to his companions to
emigrate to Madinah. Umm Salamah and her husband were among the first to leave.
The hijrah of Umm Salamah and her husband though was not as easy as they had
imagined. In fact, it was a bitter and painful experience and a particularly
harrowing one for her. Let us leave the story now for Umm Salamah herself to
tell . . . When Abu Salamah (my husband) decided to leave for Madinah, he
prepared a camel for me, hoisted me on it and placed our son Salamah on my lap.
My husband then took the lead and went on without stopping or waiting for
anything. Before we were out of Makkah however some men from my clan stopped us
and said to my husband: "Though you are free to do what you like with yourself,
you have no power over your wife. She is our daughter. Do you expect us to allow
you to take her away from us?" They then pounced on him and snatched me away
from him. My husband's clan, Banu Abdulasad, saw them taking both me and my
child. They became hot with rage.
"No! By Allah," they shouted, "we shall not abandon the boy. He is our son
and we have a first claim over him." They took him by the hand and pulled him
away from me. Suddenly in the space of a few moments, I found myself alone and
lonely. My husband headed for Madinah by himself and his clan had snatched my
son away from me. My own clan, Banu Makhzum, overpowered me and forced me to
stay with them. From the day when my husband and my son were separated from me,
I went out at noon every day to that valley and sat at the spot where this
tragedy occurred. I would recall those terrible moments and weep until night
fell on me. I continued like this for a year or so until one day a man from the
Banu Umayyah passed by and saw my condition. He went back to my clan and said:
"Why don't you free this poor woman? You have caused her husband and her son to
be taken away from her." He went on trying to soften their hearts and play on
their emotions. At last they said to me, "Go and join your husband if you wish."
But how could I join my husband in Madinah and leave my son, a piece of my
own flesh and blood, in Makkah among the Banu Abdulasad? How could I be free
from anguish and my eyes be free from tears were I to reach the place of hijrah
not knowing anything of my little son left behind in Makkah? Some realised what
I was going through and their hearts went out to me. They petitioned the Banu
Abdulasad on my behalf and moved them to return my son. I did not now even want
to linger in Makkah till I found someone to travel with me and I was afraid that
something might happen that would delay or prevent me from reaching my husband.
So I promptly got my camel ready, placed my son on my lap and left in the
direction of Madinah. I had just about reached Tan'im (about three miles from
Makkah) when I met Uthman ibn Talhah. (He was a keeper of the Ka'bah in
preIslamic times and was not yet a Muslim.)
"Where are you going, Bint Zad ar-Rakib?" he asked. "I am going to my husband
in Madinah." "And there isn't anyone with you?" "No, by Allah. Except Allah and
my little boy here." "By Allah, I shall never abandon you until you reach
Madinah," he vowed. He then took the reins of my camel and led us on. I have, by
Allah, never met an Arab more generous and noble than he. When we reached a
resting place, he would make my camel kneel down, wait until I dismounted, lead
the camel to a tree and tether it. He would then go to the shade of another
tree. When we had rested he would get the camel ready and lead us on.
This he did every day until we reached Madinah. When we got to a village near
Quba (about two miles from Madinah) belonging to Banu Amr ibn Awf, he said,
"Your husband is in this village. Enter it with the blessings of God. " He
turned back and headed for Makkah. Their roads finally met after the long
separation. Umm Salamah was overjoyed to see her husband and he was delighted to
see his wife and son. Great and momentous events followed one after the other.
There was the battle of Badr in which Abu Salamah fought. The Muslims returned
victorious and strengthened. Then there was the battle of Uhud in which the
Muslims were sorely tested. Abu Salamah came out of this wounded very badly. He
appeared at first to respond well to treatment, but his wounds never healed
completely and he remained bedridden.
Once while Umm Salamah was nursing him, he said to her: "I heard the
Messenger of God saying. Whenever a calamity afflicts anyone he should say,
"Surely from Allah we are and to Him we shall certainly return." And he would
pray, 'O Lord, give me in return something good from it which only You, Exalted
and Mig hty, can give.'" Abu Salamah remained sick in bed for several days. One
morning the Prophet came to see him. The visit was longer than usual. While the
Prophet was still at his bedside Abu Salamah passed away. With his blessed
hands, the Prophet closed the eyes of his dead companion. He then raised these
hands to the heavens and prayed:
"O Lord, grant forgiveness to Abu Salamah. Elevate him among those who are
near to You. Take charge of his family at all times. Forgive us and him, O Lord
of the Worlds. Widen his grave and make it light for him." Umm Salamah
remembered the prayer her husband had quoted on his deathbed from the Prophet
and began repeating it, "O Lord, with you I leave this my plight for
consideration . . ." But she could not bring herself to continue . . . "O Lord
give me something good from it", because she kept asking herself, "Who could be
better than Abu Salamah?" But it did not take long before she completed the
supplication. The Muslims were greatly saddened by the plight of Umm Salamah.
She became known as "Ayyin al-Arab"Ñ the one who had lost her husband. She had
no one in Madinah of her own except her small children, like a hen without
feathers.
Both the Muhajirun and Ansar felt they had a duty to Umm Salamah. When she
had completed the Iddah (three months and ten days), Abu Bakr proposed marriage
to her but she refused. Then Umar asked to marry her but she also declined the
proposal. The Prophet then approached her and she replied: "O Messenger of
Allah, I have three characteristics. I am a woman who is extremely jealous and I
am afraid that you will see in me something that will anger you and cause Allah
to punish me. I am a woman who is already advanced in age and I am a woman wh o
has a young family."
The Prophet replied: "Regarding the jealousy you mentioned, I pray to Allah
the Almighty to let it go away from you. Regarding the question of age you have
mentioned. I am afflicted with the same problem as you. Regarding the dependent
family you have mentioned, your family is my family." They were married and so
it was that Allah answered the prayer of Umm Salamah and gave her better than
Abu Salamah. From that day on Hind al Makhzumiyah was no longer the mother of
Salamah alone but became the mother of all believersÑ Umm al-Mu'mineen. |
